I have always been a firm believer in astrology. Any time I have gotten into a relationship and read about how our signs and how they are together it has literally been on point. Of course as humans in love we tend to ignore the red flags even when reading about other’s zodiac signs and compatibility. I’ve done it time and time again thinking the good will always outweigh the bad and I am proved wrong just about every time.
I am a Cancer. My emotions control everything. My life, my thoughts and my relationships. I literally take everything to heart because from my point of view one does not say or do something without thinking about it first or having an emotional connection to it. A coworker could walk past me and not say anything and my immediate thought would be that they’re upset with me or that I did something wrong. From that point on the wheels start turning and never stop until they do or say something that assures me my thinking is wrong. Now, i’m sure you can imagine how this plays into my romantic relationships.
I’m needy. I need a whole lot of attention and affection but most of all assurance, all of the time. This doesn’t work with just anyone though. Most zodiac signs can’t tolerate it…so I’ve learned. People get sick of me easy and want space. I do not do space! Especially since I constantly need assurance. Now, here’s where it gets interesting. Being a cancer my alias is a crab. Meaning I have a hard shell with soft insides. Most people say I look unapproachable. I don’t smile much unless i’m beyond ecstatic. I look rough around the edges and I don’t talk much unless i’m wicked comfortable around you which takes a lot of time. In a relationship it takes a lot to crack my shell and sometimes I will still behind the pieces once you break it. Cracking my shell takes a lot of effort. Once you get through it though I have nothing but love and affection behind it. Sure, I can be a smart mouthed asshole sometimes and get a little cold but hey, I never said I was perfect.
For a cancer being in a relationship security is the absolute most important thing. That’s where the constant assurance falls into place…that is unless it’s a common shared need between your sign and your partner’s sign. The other zodiac sign that shares the common need for stability like a cancer is a Taurus. Have I known this all along since I started dating to begin with? Yes. Do you think I ever sought one out? No. Here I am though at 26 with a Taurus. Finally. She also has never been with a Cancer and has always wanted to.
From the moment she let me know she was into me everything just fell into place. She lived in New Jersey and here I am in Massachusetts. This could have been a ruining factor because let’s face it, a small percentage of long distance relationships actually last but we made it work. Spending weekends together every month or so sometimes in Boston or New York and places in between, texting all day and night, video chatting, sending pictures and showing our love for each other all over social media. Now, 6 months later and she is living here in Massachusetts with me. She was supposed to come visit for a weekend at my house and she didn’t want to leave. I didn’t want her to either. It just felt right. So, she stayed. If I thought I was attached before well, now I’m attached even more.
I’ve never been a believer in it taking a certain amount of time for you to fall in love with someone or that things are supposed to take place at a certain point in a relationship. If you feel it then you go with it. Period. I fell for her fast. In weeks. How could I not? She’s a cute little Latina with curly hair and a huge beautiful smile. She listens to Sade, Deftones and knows everything about hip hop history. She’s into spirituality, horoscopes and ancient Egyptian culture. She even has a fascination with serial killers. She has the most innocent look but her insides are as dark and twisted as mine. Then you have the way she makes me feel. Alive, stable and so fucking in love. This woman can calm my temper and make me want to be better. She listens and cares. She always tells me how much she believes in me, in us and makes it a point to give me positive outlooks when all I see is hell in front of me. This is someone who truly has my best interest at heart. If she tells me something I never have to second guess it. The trust and respect is just there. For once in my life I am in a healthy relationship. No type of abuse, no using me, no making me feel like shit all of the time. The connection is amazing and the attraction is out of this world. She literally is everything I have ever wanted in someone and who thought it’d come in a 4’11’ package? haha.
I am so glad that I have finally found my Taurus. This may come off as a girlfriend appreciation post or maybe a way to convince you just how accurate astrology can be. Take it as you will.